Project 2012: Day 189
There’s an old joke that goes: To seduce a woman, you need to start in the morning when you awake. Make her breakfast in bed, with a cup of tea. Before you leave, feed the dog, sort out the kids, and put the washing on.
At morning tea time, send her a text declaring your undying Love. At lunch, send her flowers at work. Perhaps call her, and find out how her morning has been.
In the afternoon, text her again. Later in the evening take her out to dinner. Of course you’ve arranged the baby sitter, and you take her to her favourite restaurant. Later, walk hand in hand barefoot along the beach.
When you get home, put on romantic music, dim the lights, and light candles. Of course the house is tidy, the kids are safely ensconced in bed, and you’re all alone.
Now, you massage her, listening with soothing words to her cares of the day.
To seduce a man? Arrive naked, with beer. (Beer is optional)
Begin with the End in Mind
Whatever the means, seduction is about an end. And married or not, to seduce someone you need to begin with that end in mind.
So it is with sales, education, building, surgery, or pretty much any human endeavour. Last week we spoke about the first habit of being effective. To be proactive. Don’t respond, but take considered action.
The second arrow in our quiver then, is to be purposeful, to think about the outcome you want to achieve, and the focus all of your communication, tasks and activities toward that end.
Mostly we scupper ourselves, and just go through life responding to our buttons being pushed. Playing the same games over and over with our families and work mates. We rarely think about the outcome we want to achieve. At least not in every meeting or interaction.
This isn’t always the case though. Sometimes we do have an end in mind, but get distracted. I never cease to be amazed at how the dishes (or not doing the dishes) can scupper any manner of ends I have in mind at home.
So it’s pretty clear that we need not only to begin with the end in mind, but communicate that clearly with whomever we’re working. Whether that be our lover, our client, our child, or student.
So to seduce a woman, begin in the morning when you awaken…
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